The Love of Self

What an epic tribute to self-love! It’s only taken me over 50 years to finally really love me! To finally self-love. I’m not talking about the kind where I literally buy myself flowers  (do NOT knock it!), I mean the kind where I’m at peace with who I am, who I’ve evolved into over the years. It’s taken years and years of feeling like I somehow don’t measure up or that I may never make my mark, if I could ever get around to figuring out exactly what that was!

I was recently asked to describe myself as a book or movie genre. Without hesitation I responded that I’m comedy with a serious message. Anyone who knows me knows that I don’t take myself too seriously but I get serious about serious things. It took a long time to be OK showing both sides of me with equal measure but what was totally unexpected was finding there were people who actually liked me as I am. I’m already good enough….WAIT WHAT! Moreover I’m OK if I’m not everyone’s cup of tea. So now sharing my insecurities has become a strength, my superpower! I can continue to laugh at myself but be OK with my vulnerabilities…there is strength in vulnerability.

This reminds me of another epic moment in the entertainment world.  It’s in 8 Mile, the semi-autobiographical movie starring Eminem. There’s a scene towards the end where he totally annihilates his opponent during an on-stage rap battle by speaking his truth, his ugliest truth. He raps about being white trailer trash living in a trailer with his mum and how his girl just cheated on him. He essentially deprived his opponent of anything with which he could bring him down by sharing his vulnerabilities with the entire audience. And yes he won the battle!

So my advice dear reader to you this month is to consider what you believe to be your biggest, scariest vulnerability. Take power from what it has taught you about yourself and finally love you unconditionally.

Love

Lady Q